SNEAK PEEK: Ben Robinson Defends Using Pet Names For Ellie Dubaich | BDDU After Show (S4 E8) | Bravo

Every time I cleaned the cabin, I was learning more about stuff that I wasn’t doing.
>> So, what corners were you cutting, >> Daisy? Yes. So, I’m putting on my clothes and there’s a liner STUCK TO THE WALL.
>> Is it a temp? Like a It’s for periods and stuff. Is it >> Who does that?
>> It’s right [music] there.
>> Your left door.
>> Oh my god.
>> Oh, I used to do that when I flew to Cape Cod for the summers. We used to get them in the bathroom on the plane and we used to stick them to the the head seats in front of us.
>> We got in so much trouble.
>> I can’t really remember right now who had the job to do the cabins, you know.
Um, >> it’s probably to be honest.
>> I never saw the pantina.
>> I never clearly none of us did.
>> None of us none of us had checked the cupboards. Look, I know that it wasn’t not not just me, but I know that Jedi and Alysia, everybody skipped certain things, you know, like when we went in there, someone said, “Well, just we’re not going to check the drawers or we’ll we’ll we’ll just there’s enough soap in there, we’ll not bother putting any more in, you know.” So, I feel like whoever’s job it was um just didn’t check the cupboard, you know. So, I don’t know whose fault it was to blame.
>> So, you’re saying the interior was cutting corners?
>> For sure.
>> Yeah. [laughter] I got critiqued for everything, but I always sat back, sucked it up, but interior cut a few corners that I didn’t even bring up.
>> I do probably suspect it might be Elisia. She’s just all over the place.
And Elisia isn’t perfect. She has a lot of learning to do.
>> Oh, for sake. Why did she do that? 40 minutes until we need to be ready.
>> So, I’m just going to fold it and put it away afterwards.
>> She needs to slow down, take her time, but at this stage in the game, I know that this is it. She’s not going to change overnight and I I’m not gonna I’m not going to come in so hard. I’m just going to constantly remind and hopefully it at some stage it’s in her head.
>> It happens. The boat’s a freaking mess in general.
>> It’s everyone’s responsibility. Everyone that’s gone into that room at least once should be checking everything.
>> But we dropped the ball.
>> I’m not going to sit here and pretend that I went in there I’d done the best of me ability to clean that room.
Absolutely not. I thought I’d not have to open a drawer. Then I’ I’d walk away say, you know what, I’ve done the bare minimum and hopefully I’ll get away with it. [laughter] >> Isn’t this a contrast from about a few uh a few statements ago? I’m just saying.
>> I feel like for me it’s I’m having to work hard in two different departments.
I used my talents to the best of me ability to make sure that these guests had a good time. In all seriousness, the things that would get cut is not checking the cupboards, not checking the drawers.
>> We don’t have toilet paper in our room.
>> Oh, really?
>> I’ll have a look.
>> Thank you so much.
>> I don’t think they restocked it. And they giving us panty liners and no toilet paper.
>> I would say these are two actually the most important ones. And also, I know that the dressing gowns was also a big one. I know a couple of times the guest would say, “Where’s my robe?
>> Where’s my robe?” Yeah.
>> Where’s me robe? You know, but the fact is is this isn’t about me cutting corners because it wasn’t always my job to go and clean every single cabin.
Everyone between me, Alysia, and Jenna always got delegated different cabins, you know, or h like, “Mike, can you go down and start the cabins, but I might not finish them.” It wasn’t like I came in on day one and Daisy had said, “This is the checklist for the cabins, and this is exactly what you’re going to do and what you’re going to check.” >> You know what I always noticed with Kate? Kate Kate scrupulously would check each cabin before, you know, the guests came on, you know, >> to make sure that her work was, you know, that the work was being done, you know, just the final check.
>> I wasn’t doing the actual work. What my job was >> was to oversee the work and check the work.
>> Exactly.
>> So, if you’re not doing that, then what are you doing?
>> Exactly.
>> Look, it it happens. You know, we’re halfway through the season. people are getting tired and it’s definitely one of those things when you’re looking at something all the time, >> you miss those things. At the end of the day, you want to be better than when we started and I have a role to do and like anyone in a position of authority, if we get complaints, it comes down on me and >> I don’t like getting on in the tip meeting as we know.
>> The service wasn’t up to the level that she would expect on a super yacht. Don’t get yourself upset. It’s not it’s not just you. I will make sure you >> I will be >> take a minute and come back.
>> It’s my name on the line. I came in here to do a good job. I want people to want to work with me. I want people to want to charter with me. So the girls making these mistakes. It is frustrating.
>> That’s why you’re the chief stewarts.
You know, every now and again you got to critique them and and and and remind them. And you know, it could be a lot worse.
This is when he started calling me like she’s mad at me cuz I say darling and love.
>> Okay, let’s speed that up. Please, love, if we can.
>> Yep.
>> Wrap it and put it in the fridge, [music] darling.
>> Yeah, I will.
>> Please. Dinner’s in half an hour, honey.
We’ve got a ton to do. All right.
>> I know.
>> My degree is in words and deciphering a meaning. So, if anybody knows exactly what the you mean, it’s me.
>> Uh, Ben, the way you spoke to me, I can’t handle that.
>> Do you by doing what?
>> The way you spoke to me right now, I’m not going to have that again. How did I speak to you? I’m never going to have that again. Ben, never ever How did I speak to you, honey?
>> First of all, don’t call me honey. Don’t ever call me honey. My name is Elena.
>> Yeah, I don’t have experience in the kitchen. I don’t have experience in the galley. But, you know, I want to feel proud of my workplace. Kate, you know this old school yaching, right? We used to do it a lot. They were pet names on I don’t know if you worked with Aussies in English. We did say hey love. Hey babe, what do you know?
>> Kate love.
>> Yeah, >> Ben. It looks exquisite.
>> Oh, thanks babes. Babes, did were there any comments about it?
>> Okay, babe. Hey, darling. You know, he’s like honestly he’s he’s the Jack Sparrow of chefs.
>> I love Ellie. I said she would do great at handling anything. I think she’s very business driven. I think if she was the head of anything, given that chance, she would kill it. But she travels with a Playboy costume, so I don’t see why that was traumatizing, frankly. It’s one thing to use a pet name in passing every once in a while, but it’s another thing to use it consistently. I mean, I use pet names myself, like for my girlfriends or anybody I call them. I use pet names. Yes. And I think pet names are a kind for the most part. But there comes a point where they can take on a demeaning tone. Like imagine if roles were reversed and I was the head chef and I had a male sue chef and I never addressed that male sue chef by his name.
>> He calls me darling, you know. So I don’t I don’t see it as as a bad thing.
She’d said it a few times to me a couple of names. Ben at that point put me into fullon fight or flight. I was not thinking rationally anymore. I was uh L.
Gibson in Braveheart.
>> So, you’re a little more sensitive than we once thought. That’s >> No, I’m not sensitive. Don’t turn this on me. You are disrespectful.
Look at the captain, aren’t you?
>> Wow.
>> Captain [music] Captain Ellie, where can I find you?
>> I was in the battlefield. I was fighting for freedom from pet names and projection, and I was going to win. I mean the battlefield. I don’t give a daddy’s calling you babe. Get theing food out. I don’t care. We are here to serve food. I’m not here to to cater to everything that I’m sorry. And I know that probably comes across as really harsh and maybe not very compassionate.
>> No, it is. You are you showed compassion. You showed understanding.